Practical guides for the stuff no one taught us
Pressure. Boundaries. Dating. Friendship. Figuring yourself out.
Lu Guides turn the awkward, complicated parts of real life into scripts, activities and small steps you can actually use. Start anywhere. Take what helps.
Not sure which one? Find your guide ↓
- Digital PDF: type or print
- Start with any part
- Free part to try first
Which guide is for me?
Both guides use the same approach. The difference is the focus.
More Ways To Be A Man
Handle pressure, communicate clearly and build stronger relationships.
Start here if you're thinking…
- “I keep things in until I snap or shut down.”
- “I find it hard to ask for help.”
- “I meant well, but it didn't land that way.”
- “I want my actions to match what matters to me.”
More Ways To Be You
Feel more confident in yourself, your relationships and everyday life.
Start here if you're thinking…
- “I want to say no, but I feel guilty.”
- “They've gone quiet and I'm overthinking it.”
- “I'm dating and want some practical help.”
- “I want to make friends as an adult.”
More Ways To Be A Man
A practical manual for handling pressure, relationships and modern life. It's not about one right way to be a man. It's about having more tools to choose from when life gets complicated.
Notice what you already do well → see what it might be costing you → add another option → try it in real life.
- What matters to you?Get clear on your values and where your actions don't match them.
- Independence and knowing when to reach outWhen carrying it alone stops helping, and how to start the conversation.
- Notice pressure earlierSpot your warning signs while you still have a choice.
- Build trust in yourselfKeep your word to yourself, set limits and ask for support.
- Intention, impact and responsibilityLook at the full impact of what you do, and repair it when you get it wrong.
- Make it easier to understand youSay what's going on before it becomes a problem.
- Mates, loyalty and influenceBack your mates and still back what you believe.
- Aligning your actions with your valuesTurn what matters to you into everyday choices.
- Take what works for youPull it together into a plan you'll actually use.
$39 AUD · instant download
More Ways To Be You
Simple tools to feel more confident in yourself, your relationships and everyday life. For the moments you want to say hello, say no, plan a date or build more community, and it feels harder than it should.
Short activities, scripts you can make your own, and a “start here” table so you can jump straight to what's happening now.
- Know yourself firstGet clear on what you like, what you need and where you want to go.
- Say it clearlySay no, set boundaries, handle rejection and repair when you get it wrong.
- Dating made easierPlan dates, have better conversations and know what feels right.
- Building communityMake friends, keep them and create real-life community.
$39 AUD · instant download
Questions
Do I need to read it from start to finish?
No. Go straight to the part you need, try one activity or one script, and come back when something else comes up. You don't need to finish it for it to help.
How do I get it?
You'll get a PDF to download straight after you buy. You can type your answers into it and save them, or print it and use a pen. A notebook or voice notes work too.
Can men use More Ways To Be You?
Yes. More Ways To Be You is for anyone who wants to feel more confident in themselves, their relationships and everyday life. More Ways To Be A Man goes deeper into the pressures many men were raised with, so some people use both.
Is this therapy?
No. Lu Guides are about everyday communication, confidence and relationships. They aren't therapy, legal advice, crisis support or a replacement for specialist help. Each guide ends with a list of support services.
If you're unsafe or in crisis, call 000 in an emergency or Lifeline on 13 11 14.
Can I try it before I buy?
Yes. Each guide has a free part: Notice Pressure Earlier from More Ways To Be A Man, and Know Yourself First from More Ways To Be You.
What if I can't afford a guide right now?
That's okay. Start with the free parts above, the free resources on the website, or @lookuplu on Instagram. There's plenty of free content there you can use straight away.
Can I use them with my team or workplace?
Yes. The skills you build in Lu Guides are the same ones you need at work: communicating clearly, setting boundaries, handling pressure and repairing things when they go wrong.
For workplaces, start with the free Read It manager guides. If you'd like Lu Guides for a team or group, get in touch.
What should the next Lu Guide be about?
New guides are made when enough people ask for them. Tell us the moment you wish someone had taught you how to handle.
- Breakups
- Family boundaries
- Living with a partner
- Starting somewhere new
- Conflict with friends
Already tried a guide? Share how it went.